Where did things go wrong?
We’ve all asked ourselves this same question at some point in our lives.
Crystal, a bright-eyed 25-year-old woman from Southern California, can relate. Until recently, she was struggling to beat addiction -- unsuccessfully.
It all started when she was in college. At school she dated a boy who casually used meth and, eventually, she started using with him.
This led to a downward spiral that would culminate in her being left tied up and bleeding, beaten beyond recognition by her drug dealer boyfriend. Alone. Physically dependent on drugs.
Crystal took 4 STEPS to lead her to where she is today – sober, healthy and full of plans for the future! As a is a recent graduate from our Teen Challenge program, Crystal was able not only to beat addiction - but also to come back stronger!
Step 1. Ask for help, as many times as you need to
The day she changed her life, Crystal made the important choice to humble herself and get help, at any cost. She loosened herself from her restraints and called her estranged mother, who rushed to rescue the daughter she hadn’t seen in years.
Asking for help is considered by many to be one of the most important parts of recovery because it frees you from destructive, secretive behaviors. Crystal asked her mother for help getting addiction treatment, and she asked for support. A year later, when her ex-boyfriend began stalking her, she called for help again – as many times as necessary.
2. Make the connection, spot the pattern and break it.
Looking back on the direction her life took, Crystal makes a connection with her childhood experiences. “Growing up," she says, “my dad had been absent and alcoholic and so I always had a fixation with men, I always needed to be in a relationship. I would end up in unhealthy relationships, like this one, where he was so abusive.”
She grew to understand what would be in store for her if she were to return to her old life, and in the Serving California Redemptive Homes, she discovered a renewed purpose in life, restoration, and opportunity to move past her old life.
3. Be Obedient
“This is the first time that I ever obeyed the Holy Spirit,” Crystal remembers – “when I called the police on him for stalking me and decided to move into a recovery home.” She honored the tug of the Holy Spirit on her heart, and she honored the wishes of the police, by testifying against her ex for the violence and stalking she endured. He’s now serving 25 to life, and Crystal is working on practicing the fourth step…"
4. Forgive and Move Forward
"The education that I received in the home is the vessel that God used to teach me how to forgive him, and I’ve been able to let go, knowing that I went through all of that so that now I can help somebody else," she concludes. She has finally found peace.
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